Love Languages

I really enjoyed reading the 5 Love Languages and think about it often especially when it comes to my girls. So I decided to pick up the children's edition and read over that. The books are great quick reads but very enlightening.  In case you don't know what the 5 are they are:
touch
words of affirmation
quality time
gifts
acts of service

And no one person really relies on just one but without recieving love in their language can make them miserable. Kids of all people really need all 5.  The other intereasting thing is that how you feel and show love can be different. Really a good book to read. But anyway on to my girls.

Mike and I have discussed our girls alot with this. We had figured Rachel certainly shows love through gifts and we were pretty sure that's how she recieves it too. But a year ago gifts were given to her all the time and she started seem ungrateful (hence the decision to not have a 5 birthday party for her) so lately I've been thinking maybe that's not it maybe it's quality time.

Ashley we nailed down as touch because she always wants to be snuggled, tickled, wrestled, given a pony ride etc. But she doesn't like to be verbally scolded or get in trouble at all so I thought maybe words of affirmation since a single word sometimes brings her to tears.

So I'm reading the book and at the beginning and end of each section has kids who have answered the question "How do you know your parents love you?" and obviously the answers fit the section. I kept thinking I wonder what my girls would answer. This morning I had time individually with them and had the chance to ask "How do you know daddy loves you?" Here's the answers.

Rachel: "Because he buys me things like clothes"  
We were right!

Ashely: "Because he cooks really good food for us"

Ashley's response floored me because that's an acts of service love type (this is the one i can never remember) so I asked if there was any other

Ashley: "Yes because he's always giving me hugs and kisses before bed"

I thought aha there's the touch so it is important to her just not first. This also makes sense because like today at the library she picked out a movie knowing her sister will want to watch it. She's also always wanting and willing to help.

These love languages are different from myself which is quality time and with that said I'd encourage you to find out your family's own love language.